Troubles...Troubles...Troubles...

Oh man Life is full of troubles..issues...problems.Whatever we do, some or the other issues. By the way whats the difference between Trouble ..Issue..Problem? Whatever be, Hell they make me feel so sad and bad...
God, cant you please let me in peace for sometime. Why are you dumping me with so much of troubles, after all I am good, Ok, Ok...after all I am not sooo bad. Please give me a breakkkkkkkkkkk.

Hmm...Somehow sometimes it seems, life is all troubles...And this blog is rather a self talk to myself..Here I am, one day cursing my life, one day trying to be optimistic and one day sobbing over things and wishing one day I ll be out of this trouble soon..and may be wait for the next :) :(

Problems are part of life. Life comes with a package. And we have to take it as a "package", with all the positives and negatives in it. One cannot possibly have all positives. Its just a mix of things. If you are relishing the positives of the package, as well, cope up with the negatives.

There are few things that you can control over life, few things u do not have control. Mind the ones where u have control and the rest, just wait and watch, for you dont have control over them.

Be your own judge and be right to yourself, follow your heart it will definitely show you the right direction.

Never have too many threads in your mind and think about everything, solve one by one. Take one thing at a time, analyze and find a solution and move to next.

Never lose temper, never lose patience. Ok this is too much, Try to be little more patient and composed.

Stop imagining consequences of the problem, it is true we all are soo good in imagination that we always imagine ourselves getting into worst consequences. Not even by chance they can happen in reality, but often it does in our imagination. The imaginary fears are very very dangerous, they slowly slowly make u a negative person. Have confidence and be optimistic. Positive thoughts can create wonders.

Try to stand out of the problem as a third person and try understanding and solving it. It eliminates the emotional pressure on you.

So does problems makes us weaker or stronger?. Hmm, It makes us pretty much weaker as long as the problem is active and once it is resolved, may be it makes us stronger with the lessons that it has imparted in us. It is true that we feel that we had grown a bit stronger after crossing each struggles in life.

They say God gives you, only the troubles that you can handle. So may be we can handle it..

Come on gear up, everyone has problems, you can soon be out of it...Now dont be so frowning, for god's sake it will make the face look too bad..

And finally whatever happens, Life will move on....Never worry..Be brave.

Peace and Harmony - Taken for granted?

Who told us that Peace, Harmony and Happiness is default?

Being out-of-trouble and leading a normal peaceful life, Is that DEFAULT in life? But dont we feel so? May be we dont even realize that we are feeling so. Shouldn't we feel gifted to gain a painless, peaceful day? How many people out there don't have it, but we do. But are we really feeling grateful for it? I guess, NO. Because we take them for granted.

Why is that we frown at the face of sorrow and down for a having a bad day, but, not celebrating as much as we frown when we are fine and happy, when our life is sailing smooth in harmony?

We take many things for granted. Almost everything that is good that happens to us are taken for granted. And we react less to them, and all that favors us, in leading a normal happy peaceful life is left unnoticed. But if the routine changes and there is a bit of trouble, we frown, cry or feel frustrated or feel the whole world is against us. Personally I feel this is biased.

When we are hurt by our friends or any of our loved ones, we make sure we stand up and demand justice by arguing or fighting or scolding. But how often do we recognize and reciprocate the little pleasure and happiness that they give, that makes our day fit and fine. Dont we need to be grateful for those?

I realize that we do not appreciate the good little things often, but will make sure we stand against and fight if hurt by someone. Sometimes a note of 'thanks' or 'u-r-great' or 'i feel good about u' will make a day for someone. I see how happy it makes mom feel when I praise her cooking, which I never often do. Coz I take for granted that she is to provide me nice and tasty food. I see how happy it makes my sis feel when I say I am very much happy in chatting with her when am feeling all alone in US. I am of course happy for it, but I never usually feel like conveying it to her. I thank my dear husband for helping me in kitchen when am down, which he anyway dont feel as a burden. Like this, there are many many petty things in life which we take for granted. We know its fetching us happiness deep inside, but we never show it out. But when such things are shown out, how good it feels. And what else is more powerful and more motivating than a word of appreciation? When someone says what u do is good, naturally we feel like doing it again. All of us love to be appreciated, thanked. So lets give the joy to others too. By this I dont mean to simply flatter people with our comments, but start noticing the unnoticed happiness, the happiness that is taken for granted, and be grateful for it.

Just a small note of praise, makes a lot of difference, to others, to ourselves too.

It makes our life more balanced. Reacting to -ve things in life is quite common, but reacting to +ve things too, will make our life more balanced and meaningful. At least I feel so :-)